Thats a picture of me I took a couple of years back.

Do I think Im gonnabe Peoples Magazine Sexiest Man Alive? No, while I do have pretty goodeyebrows and one dimple, I know that Im not Gods gift to women.

Instead of wishing Ihad the sex appeal of Trey Songz or Denzel Washington, I have now decided tostart focusing on all the other things that make me special. Deciding to focuson all my other better qualities allows the people around me to focus onthose things as well.

I remember back inhigh school there would be these guys (and sometimes females) who werentexactly attractive, however they did have this appeal (read: confidence) tothem that made everyone want to be around them.

Some people (guys andgirls) can impress others just by the mere wonderment of their looks.Myadvice to those who arent a nine or ten on the looks scale is to stop focusingon the things you dont like about your looks, because you have so many otherqualities that make you beautiful to others.

Also, dont worry ifyou dont have much success on apps like Tinder or out at clubs whenthere are other(and better) placesto meet someone to date.An app orclub isnt the best platform for allowing people to notice the other qualities(besides looks) that make you beautiful.

How Did You Develop Confidence?

Getting to the pointwhere I could stop focusing on what I didnt like about myself started withreading articles and asking guys I consider confident the question, How didyou develop confidence?

I wanted to know whatwas behind there willingness to smile at a beautiful woman and if she smiledback what motivated them to approach her?

I am a firm believer that anyone (man or woman) can become confident, and knew that there were others like me who were self-conscious but had made the decision to overcome being shy.Last week on the Good Men Project, I wrote about tips I read for developing my confidence and how Im applying those tips to my life.

With this article, I want to build off that and provide the best of the advice I received from the guys I asked, along with links that can help you.

The best of theiradvice is as follows:

If I had to pick one that was myultimate favorite, it would be number five, having a confidence role model.

Having confident role models in my life helped me recognize the importance of removing myself from the company of negative people.

The company we keep (whether good or bad) shapes or attitude. Famous self-help author Jim Rohn once said: You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

In other words, how we see the world, how we see ourselves, and our attitude towards confidence is influenced by who we choose to spend time around. If we invest our time into people who are bad influences, they will start to shape the person we become.

In the past I would spend too much time listening to people complain about how their dating life sucks, their lack of confidence sucks, their career sucks, and looking back now, I realize their negativity begin to rub off on me.

Cutting out bad company was one of the mostpainful and difficult things Ive ever had to do, but it was necessary. Badcompany isnt just people who tear you down verbally, abuse you, or break yourtrust; they include friends who negatively affect your mood, are a badinfluence, and people who dont want to improve in life.

Do you have any pessimistsin your life, who always view things in the most negative of possible light? Ifso, GET RID OF THEM! I did, and I can say Im a better man because of it.

I know self-improvement is something that mostof us with our busy schedules dont think we have time for.

However, not all self-improvement istime-consuming. I know one way you can build confidence in yourself every daythat is easy and quick Podcasts for Self-Improvement.

Replacing negative voices with positive onesis a great way to build confidence in yourself. And, it is through replacingnegative voices that I began to shed my own negative voice. As a result, I nowfocus on the qualities I love about myself and not the ones I dont.

Previously published on Goodmenproject.com

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