Like Socrates said many years ago, the unexamined life is not worth living. We hardly give ourselves time tothink reasonably and logically about our lives and how to live it. In order to unlock our full potential and achieve our greatest dreams, we need to take a step back and examine the kind of life we are living and ask good life questions that make you think.

Living a conscious life

It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.

The instinct is to look for answers, but the truth is that it is the questions that teach us most. It can also be that the rhetorical questions the ones that dont even seem to have answers that push and push the hardest.Who do you think you are? What does all this mean? Why? Why? Why?

But it took me a while to even understand what questions I should ask of myself. Some of those doubts were always there in the background, hovering, emphasizing that I didnt understand life. I had a vague feeling that I wasdismaying over things that didnt matterwhile ignoring the universal realities that would pull me out of my little problem bubbles. But I wasnt sure. And I never took out time to pin those deep questions about life, and, hence, could never answer them.

Whether you want to be happier or become a better leader, a better team player, a better human being, asking the right questions can help you move on a more conscious path and enable better choices. When your own awareness goes up, you are not just aware of your own self but start becoming more aware about others as well. You also learn how you impact others. And this is just so important for leaders to understand. Many leaders think this self-awareness impacts ONLY them.. that is a myth! It a VUCA world, leaders really need to learn to ask better questions.

Do not ask why- ask how and find the what

I have always been curious and the process of questioning deepened over time when I started working, became a mother, experienced failure, faced relationship challenges and then when I went through the loss of my father. This started taking a large part of my mind space, creating a lot of clutter with no answers, or I found solace in externalising my problemsboth situations leading to loss of optimism, productivity and happiness levels.

In one of such lock jam situations of team work,Imetmy coachNasreen Khan. Iwenttoherin a state ofconfusion,with multiple questionsof why this, why that andcame backempowered, to make betterchoicesby changing thequestionsI was askingmyself. She helped meunlock themagic of self-awarenessthat helpedme take charge of my life andalsoinspires me to be a better version of myselfeach day. The simple shift was asking solution focussed question of how rather than the victim questions of why.

The marvellous thing about a good question is that it shapes our identity as much by the asking as it does by the answering. These questions always have something to do with how you might be more generous, more courageous, more present, more dedicated, more optimistic and they also have something to do with timing: when you might step through the doorway into something bigger, betterboth beyond yourselves and yet more of yourselves at the same time.

As Franz Kafka once said, Anyone who cannot come to terms with his life while he is alive needs one hand to ward off a little his despair over his fate but with his other hand he can note down what he sees among the ruins.

My effort continues

Nasreens philosophical knowledge and practical experience in conversation is truly insightful. The real life anecdotes shared by her, as a coach and a coachee are real, simple to understand and embrace to help you take charge of your life.

Allow your questions to challenge you and think.

The secret ingredients to true happiness really is, decisive optimism and personal responsibility of taking charge of ones life to be a happy person and an effective leader. And this starts with the asking better question.

Feeling like you are not in charge of your own life is an unsettling feeling. Worse yet, like many individuals are you not even aware that they you are acting according to the scripts laid out for you by society, family and other outside pressures, without any true self direction. The right question at the right time can change the course of a life, can still a turbulent mind, or heal an angry heart. Every situation can generate its own questions, to be asked not just once but many times over the course of a lifetime, some even many times over the course of the day.

Begin today, begin now, ask yourself, what are the 3 words that you would like to be used to describe yourself? I am sure your answer will be in the question itself, of thing you need to start doing, stop doing or do more of, things that truly matter to you and align with your authentic self.

You may or may not know the answer to your questions, but I can say from experience, there is value in letting them challenge you. Some questions may be simpler than others, sure, but the answers rarely are and the act of asking is the most important thing. If you let them do their work on you and let them change you, you will find the meaning of life.

Must watch this TOSB conversation and as Nasreen said , All you need to do now, is to take time to munch those peanuts and start asking some questions to yourself regularly. You will be surprised at how many answers you have, when you care enough to ask.

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Be Curious, Ask Better Questions, Stay Optimistic and Take Charge of Your life!

Kriti Makhija

Credit: The Outstanding Speaker Bureau and Nasreen Khan

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