Today, a male online dater shares his strategy that work. Women can learn from this too. Heres his letter:

I had an absolute blast with online dating, meeting many great people from different backgrounds. Some didnt work out, some became short-term relationships and one became my bride-to-be and mother of our child.

Im average in every way, in my early 30s, not in shape. Im educated and have a decent job. So two big complaints about online dating: gold diggers and superficial people. These didnt happen to me.

Also, women get a ton more messages than men. So, men, you need to make any message you send stand out. I worked hard to get a good first-message template, which Id copy and paste to every message I sent, modifying to make it personal.

My message had humour and some personal information, but not too personal (e.g. so you have something to talk about later).

Some wont agree, but my next tip is to carpet bomb that is, message lots of people. Almost everyone lies in their profile, so dont be too selective. Also message someone that doesnt seem so appealing, so you can learn more. She might turn out to be the one for you!

For every five to 10 messages Id send, I would get one response, and one date out of every five responses.

I sent out hundreds of messages, went on a number of first dates, some of which turned into second, third and more dates.

I found that many women Id date were doing similar things, and dating different people several times a week.

You need to toughen up and not expect fireworks with every person you meet. And you will be rejected sometimes, maybe even a lot of the time. I went on a number of first dates I thought went great, only to find myself avoided afterward.

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A male online dater shares his tips for success