As community heroes and Attitude Pride Award recipients go, they dont often come bolder and better than David Paisley, whose tireless campaigning against the trans-exclusionary agenda of the LGB Alliance has put him in the firing line of powerful and hostile forces.

Currently starring in BBC One Scotlands soap opera River City, actor and activist David first made tabloid headlines in a Holby City/Casualty crossover episode way back in 2002 when he kissed his on-screen boyfriend, played by Lee Warburton.

I never really worried about the impact on my career, says David in the Attitude Summer issue, out now to download and to order globally.

I think I just felt it was too important to be visible. A lot of the representation that was on TV was by actors that didnt identify as LGBT, which is because there werent that many out gay actors at the time.

"Even now, I get messages from people saying, That kiss in Casualty was the first time I realised that I was gay. For people to recognise something of themselves in the characters Ive played, thats a real privilege.

More recently, Davids activism has built momentum on social media, where he has become a vocal critic of the LGB Alliance and its anti-trans stance.

David Paisley is one of 10 everyday LGBTQ heroes honoured with an Attitude Pride Award in the Attitude Summer issue, out now to download and to order globally

Formed in 2019, the LGB Alliance on one hand claims to represent the needs of gay, lesbian and bisexual people, but with the other often campaigns to undermine the trans communitys fundamental rights.

As someone whos always been quite outspoken about equality and respecting diversity, I feel like its even more important for cisgendered gay men like myself to speak up in support of the trans community, given what theyre going through, the toxic environment and how challenging it must be to be a trans person in the UK right now, says David.

Organisations such as the LGB Alliance specifically exist to campaign against trans rights, and they say theyre doing so in my name, as a gay person, and they absolutely do not speak for me. Theyre being given a platform to campaign against the rights of people from my community.

"Its so important to speak out about the fact that we are one community, and we need to support one another, and allow us not to be divided, because thats what they seek.

The LGB Alliances track record is a shady one. The group actively campaign against a ban on conversion therapy, in particular, for the rights of religious organisations to continue offering the controversial practice, and have also campaigned against the Scottish Hate Crime Bill.

It doesnt make any sense that an organisation that says its about protecting the rights of lesbian, gay and bisexual people campaigns against moves to protect those people, adds David.

Hes acutely aware that its also important to be the right kind of ally: Its vital that people who have a platform speak out in support of others. But never speak over. I think thats another important thing, if youre an ally to sections of the community, its really important to uplift other people, provide a platform for them to speak, share their experiences.

"Im a white, cis gay man they hold a lot of privilege in the gay community. Theyre often listened to a lot more than other members of the community: women, ethnic minorities, trans people, nonbinary people. The focus should be on the less-often-heard members of the community.

The division between the LGB and T letters of the expansive queer acronym is disheartening to see, and only serves to support the antiLGBTQ+ groups that seek to suppress us all. At the heart of it, David believes, is a lack of compassion for the struggles other people face.

Its about this real discomfort that people have with things that are different, things that they dont understand, he says. Ill never understand what its like to be a trans person or a non-binary person, but as a human being I have empathy, I can look at peoples experiences and listen.

A lot of what were seeing is an echo of the homophobia that I experienced in the 90s and early 00s. A lot of the criticism that gets levelled at the trans community is very familiar: that theyre a danger to children, perverted, not to be trusted. Its about creating a societal scapegoat. That was how we were treated, as gay men, thats where my empathy is rooted.

In May, the LGB Alliance was granted charitable status, a situation that caused uproar since most in the LGBTQ+ community perceive them as a hate group because of their anti-trans actions.

They continually campaign online and speak about trans rights and gender issues. Thats why they exist, says David.

So the idea that the Charity Commission would then legitimise their message by making them a registered charity is abhorrent. Their message is toxic and harmful, not just to the trans community, but to the entire community, because theyre also campaigning against the ban on conversion therapy. They dont want it banned. They have campaigned against hate crime legislation. That has an impact on the entire LGBT community.

David highlights how the group does no positive work to actually uplift LGB rights. There is even speculation that the group is associated with the American Christian right, and critics are curious about the funding that the LGB Alliance receives.

Certainly, the things that they campaign on align very closely with Christian evangelical fundamentalists in America who are very wealthy, David says, adding that the only thing that we can really do is point this out, and hope that people recognise that the group is harmful and toxic.

David also highlights how the LGB Alliances views seem to be infiltrating government policy.

The LGBT Action Plan has been abandoned by the Conservative government. Seeing initiatives that were supposed to help LGBT people be abandoned, and commitments to equality and diversity being watered down should concern everyone. Were seeing organisations like Stonewall having their funding threatened [by Equalities Minister Liz Truss], because theres a campaign against them to have their funding cut.

Aiming to provide a ray of light in a grey sky, David is part of a group that launched the campaign and fundraising platform LGBT+ Glitterati, and a not-for-profit, Together LGBTQ, to promote equality, diversity, cohesion and mutual support in the community.

Set up in reaction to a comment from a member of the LGB Alliance who exclaimed, Oh, its the typical gay glitterati, David decided to reclaim the insult and sells LGBT Glitteratibranded merchandise to fundraise for the Legal Defence Fund for Transgender Lives. Weve raised quite a lot of money. But largely what we want to do is just campaign in a positive way, to try and uplift other members of the community, he says.

David's public campaigning has led to him receiving torrents of online abuse that have left with severe anxiety, which worsened when someone sent him death threats.

It had a really difficult impact on my mental health and wellbeing. Ive also experienced harassment at my workplace. I had panic attacks. I couldnt leave the house. I didnt want to go back to work. I had to get help from the local mental health team, and try and get support.

On the day of his Pride Awards shoot, David is shaken by news of an ongoing police action investigating the worst of these threats: The online stuff was so toxic and harmful. There were accusations that I was a paedophile, and that I abused women and children. There were points where I considered taking my own life, I felt that the environment was so oppressive. My childhood was marked by abuse, so to see people freely accuse me of that kind of behaviour as if thats an OK thing to say about a gay man, caused me a lot of emotional difficulty.

He continues, When you come from a minority community that is historically oppressed, online abuse has a real impact on your wellbeing, your sense of safety, your sense of acceptance within society. I got to a point where I felt unsafe going outside. I felt unsafe being myself, being an out, open, gay man. It brought back a lot of experiences from my youth, and I had to reach out and get proper mental health support.

Despite the fact that his advocacy has had a personal impact, David believes its important to continue calling people out. No matter how much its impacted me personally, I cant imagine the stress and anxiety of being a trans person in the UK at the moment, given the public debate thats had about their lives every day. As much as it might have had a personal impact on my wellbeing, its going to be ten times more challenging for members of that community.

I can step away from this debate. I can turn the internet off and not look at those comments. I can go under a duvet and forget. Trans people cant step away from themselves and from societys transphobia. They cant, because thats their life, thats their day-to-day.

As Pride Award recipients go, David Paisley is a worthy hero.

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Working with hospitality-focused individuals, businesses, groups and organisations, along with renowned experts from the fields of mental health, nutrition, exercise, finance and beyond, So Lets Talk looks to develop bespoke solutions for the specific needs of those who operate in or with the hospitality industry.

The mural project will see So Lets Talk and graffiti artist Shawn Sharpe, Good Good Graffiti, bring to the forefront specific issues that workers in the hospitality industry face, while the money raised throughout the campaign is set to help run crucial sessions for hospitality professionals, aiming to make a much healthier and happier industry.

Sharpe, a self-taught artist has been painting for just over 10 years, having painted with professional spray can art for 4 years. Starting out at the age of 18, he paints everything from classic graffiti, portraits, type, anamorphic pieces and more. He has also worked for the likes of Corona, Smirnoff and Revolution Bars.

Sponsored by Liverpool Cocktail Week (The Cocktail Week Co), the mural created by Sharpe is situated on the side of Pins Social Club on Duke Street, taking over 24 hours to create and using 40 spray cans. The Cocktail Week Co is exceptionally proud, excited and honoured to be working with So Lets Talk to help bring an end to the silence and darkness surrounding the hospitality industry.

Following the 18 months of intermittent closures, lockdowns and uncertainty the hospitality industry has seen a real decline in mental health.

Measuring 3.8m width and 2.9m length, So Lets Talk hopes the mural will spark important conversations to trigger a much needed change of attitude towards hospitality workers.

The idea behind the mural is to ask healthier questions before a work shift. Employees will usually ask their teams if they have the equipment they need to do their work, such as a bar blade, pens, lighters, etc. The question in hand becomes irrelevant if the person operating the equipment is funding it hard to function.

So Lets Talk looks to use the mural to change the questions up, asking how much valuable sleep did we get last night? When was the last time we had a home cooked meal? Without using the words ok or fine how are we really feeling today? Asking healthier questions will get a healthier response.

The idea behind these murals was to raise awareness about mental, physical and financial health in the hospitality industry, but also, what we do here at So Lets Talk. Were so grateful to Pins Social Club for gifting us the space, and for Shawn for doing such an incredible job. The money raised will not only help us to support a local artist, but it will also help us to run sessions for hospitality professionals; making it a much happier and healthier place to be.

Alongside Liverpool, So Lets Talk has previously brought the mural project to Manchesters Northern Quarter with plans to take the campaign to other major UK cities, including Glasgow, Birmingham and London.

So Lets Talk was created by Patrick Howley in January 2020. Howley has spent well over a decade in the hospitality industry, where earning his stripes led to a destructive cycle of long hours, disrupted sleeping patterns, poor nutrition, high alcohol consumption and recreational drug use.

The decision to create So Lets Talk was inspired by Howleys experiences and lessons learned in not having an avenue for help during his time of need. He hopes to support others in a similar situation.

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By:Theresa-Anne Clarke Harter, Peak Associate

For those with certain mental health concerns, a return to in-person learning may mean heightened anxiety, social challenges, and more. Others may feel relieved at the thought of returning to school, as remote learnings lack of designated learning spaces, proper equipment, and structure present unique challenges. But with this return, SFU needs to ensure they accommodate all students and offer proper mental health support.

We will inevitably see a rise in mental health struggles among students as we return to in-person learning. In recent years, SFU has added the option of drop-in Health & Counselling advising sessions where students can be referred to supports that would best suit their needs. This service can be initially accessed almost immediately. Unfortunately, due to lengthy waitlists, it can be difficult to get help after your first session.

During the pandemic, professors were often more understanding about late assignments and the struggles that come with learning online. This attitude needs to translate to SFUs return to campus, as students will continue to have personal struggles that are just as valid. Students should be able to access help without rehashing trauma or sharing personal events with a near stranger. The inflexibility of academia doesnt reflect real human needs. In fact, it often lacks empathy.

Students will undoubtedly need more support and understanding. We have yet to see the repercussions this shared trauma will have on ourselves and our communities. To engage healthily with our learning environment, SFU must improve their mental health supports. Investing more in these health supports could involve increasing funding for the Centre for Accessible Learning, Health & Counselling, and campus groups that advocate for marginalized students.

Another learning barrier I would like to see dismantled as we return to in-person classes is SFUs bureaucratic application processes for accessing support. I recently had a personal experience with this while pursuing learning accommodations for my ADHD. Numerous forms some that may require you to see a new doctor or psychiatrist just to prove a condition youve already been diagnosed with can feel very invalidating. Not to mention, this presents barriers to people who experience executive dysfunction. The employees at CAL are lovely, empathetic, and helpful individuals, but it is the bureaucratic processes the institution inflicts on us that are the problem. This red tape puts up so many barriers that many students searching for help give up halfway through the process.

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A focus on mental health is needed for post-pandemic life - The Peak

Stigma is the cornerstone of the stumbling blocks that mar every step in the process to reduce the prevalence of mental illness. From acceptance of symptoms of mental illness to acceptance of treatment to rehabilitation, there is a stigma attached to every stage of recovery. Society forces the mentally ill to wander the streets, destitute and alone, when empathy, effort, and scientific care can resolve mental illness, writes Magsaysay Award winnerDr BHARAT VATWANI.

THE bottleneck for the mentally ill in the Indian subcontinent, and one of the reasons for the virulent spread of psychiatric illness in our country is the stigma associated with it.

Physical illnesses rarely carry any stigma. Mental illness carries a stigma that can be segregated into two types:

Stigma leads to social loneliness, isolation and exclusion, and consequently poor social support. It causes mentally ill people to feel ashamed for something beyond their control. Stigma prevents the mentally ill from seeking the help they need, and going further, has a detrimental effect on treatment outcomes.

The stigma of mental illness got deeply entrenched over centuries of human existence. Given its omnipotent prevalence, both the patient and the relatives believe in the dogma of stigma. They are not ready to disclose their problem to themselves or others and are unprepared to accept the problem exists in society.

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So, ultimately, mental illness is boxed in, closeted and festooned. With no breathing space, the claustrophobia of thoughts, emotions, behaviours and treatment options sets in.

Internally, the illness starts multiplying manifold, becomes gangrenous, and at a subconscious level, ultimately expunges the mentally ill from within their selves, their families and their societies. And thus are born thewanderingmentally ill. They keep their mental illness, again at a subconscious level, in stagnated momentum, like a rolling stone that gathers no moss. No further additions or subtractions are made to their thoughts, emotions, actions and treatment options, and wandering becomes a way of life.

As schizophrenics walk around, disconnected from society, they attempt to drown their anxiety by the sheer physicality of momentum and wandering.

The Shraddha Rehabilitation Foundation, an NGO, addresses this physicality, momentum and wandering.

One has to connect to the mentally ill by voice, body language, demeanour, eye contact and above all, through the soul.

Empathy is not sympathy, it is not pity, it is not largesse, it is not benevolence. It is beyond all these. It is the honest ability to communicate to the man on the streets, There, but for the grace of a God above, go I. Therefore, I am you, and you are I.

The moment true empathy is established, the claustrophobia of thought, emotions and actions that was festering within the psyche of the destitute, yields like a pricked balloon. When gently dealt with, the wandering destitute agrees to get into the ambulance of our NGO.

In some cases, the destitute are brought to the centre by means other than by ambulance. To cite one instance, our social worker, Farzana Ansari, got down for refreshments during a train journey. She saw a mentally ill destitute, established a rapport with him, got him onto the train and brought him to our rehabilitation centre at a ten-hour distance.

In many instances, college students who have some exposure to our work cajole the destitute walking on the street to sit on their motorcycles and bring them to our centre, often from a fairly long distance. How do they achieve this? From the communication of empathy.

The destitute have never been bathed, nor have they thought of cleaning up themselves, as they have internalised the stigma against their selves. A revulsion towards their illness has set deep in their psyches over months, years, even decades.

The Shraddha staff break this psychic wall. They get fresh clothes, trim their forests of matted hair and beards. Amongst the female destitute, female staff attend to their menstrual hygiene. The acceptance of the destitute as humans makes them accept themselves as humans.

A complete and balanced meal is provided. Shraddha doctors attend to maladies such as fever, pneumonia, typhoid and malaria, a common plight of the wandering mentally ill. Every act embodies care and compassion.

A routine is established: breakfast-lunch-dinner followed by morning-noon-night medicines. Psychiatric medication is started to counter the psychiatric problem scientifically. From day one, the patient is addressed by his name, not a number, as is common in situations of confinements.

Also read:Mental health biggest casualty in second wave

The patients are cajoled and pleaded with, in gentle soothing tones, to reveal their names, their parents names, their sisters names. Soon, they recall the name of their husband or wife, their children, kith and kin, the village they were born in, the district they belong to, the school they studied in, the theatre they watched their favourite movies at, the festivals they celebrated with their family, the gods they revered These are questions no one has ever asked them, to which they had almost forgotten the answers.

The capacity to make a wandering mentally ill destitute believe he has an identity and belongs, comes from asking simple questions. It is not rocket science but interpersonal rapport at the level of empathy.

The patient is pushed gently into joining group activities such as physical exercise or games such as rubber ball, cricket, football, throwball, or yoga in an open environment and group prayer meetings in a multi-cultural setting. Their specific skills allow the patient to work in gardening, farming, masonry, electrical repair work, attending to cattle, cooking, cutting vegetables and general cleaning of the premises.

Recognising their inherent personality recreates a bygone psychic era for the patient and the balloon of stigma pricks further.

The destitute are made to understand that their contributions are unique, one-of-a-kind, valuable and cherished even after they have left the centre.

Doctors at Shraddha make it a standard protocol to have all patients present (male/female separately) while making their rounds. Unless physical examination demands privacy, the doctors address each of them by name in the presence of others.

Their tone, body language, attitude and eye contact communicate empathy, but the visual/aural presence of the others disseminates empathy to all in the room. Each destitute present (in the large room) realises that caring, concerned people are addressing them individually.

Also read:India is failing the mentally ill as abuses continue

An entire team of qualified professional social workers is present during these rounds. They belong to different states of India, speak varied dialects and make patients from all over India feel comfortable because they are spoken to in a language and dialect they understand, and grew up with, which is a part of their collective unconscious. This often results in abreaction and emotional catharsis among the patients.

A patient, after about two months of treatment, broke down, spontaneously reached out, and taking a pen from the doctors hands, wrote a mobile number in his file in tremulous writing. It was his brothers number.

Since the destitute had recovered substantially, an immediate call was placed to the number (in front of the other patients) and he spoke on the phone in an emotionally gut-wrenching voice to his brother on the other end of the line. The mobile was kept in speaker on mode, and the conversation made the entire room reverberate with empathy, empathy and more empathy. Each patient desired and wished this fellow inmate (nay, fellow soul-mate) goes home.

Sometimes, bonds so deep develop that one recovered patient says he would return home only after he escorts safely two other recovered destitute on their reunion trip.

Till a few months ago, these patients were unknown to one another, but their proximity shatters the social isolation and loneliness. Their ongoing recovery has the destitute forge bonds of empathy, regardless of what sects or classes they belong to.

Some aspects of recovery simply amount to humans establishing and proclaiming their right to be human, and interpersonal emotional rapport weaving its magic.

Simple events, such as the doctors sipping tea and biscuits during their rounds make the patients want to partake in a biscuit fest! The request is never turned down. Instantaneously, the doctors and patients become equals.

On occasions, the destitute reaches out and takes the water bottle of the doctor and drinks from it. This is encouraged, not denied. The entire group of 80-odd male patients notices. The worst off, be they catatonic or severely depressed, perceive a flickering of hope in their innermost unconsciousness.

Patients may take months or a year to recover, but every act of camaraderie makes them believe in life. Their image in their own eyes goes on the upswing. They are unchained from the shackles of stigma, they are back from the skeletons of the dead.

Finally comes the planning of the Shraddha reunion trips for the recovered destitute, the return trip to their homeland. This is something all of them now await and anticipate with bated breath. They have seen two or three patients, on average, get the doctors OK to leave the rehabilitation centre every day.

Escorted by social workers from their state, the recovered men and women set off for home. Deep down, the others have come to understand that their turn shall come. Hope is rekindled in lost souls. And loved ones forgotten because of the blunting of emotional faculties by the onslaught of mental illness, are often re-remembered with fervour and passion.

As the recovering men and women remember their children and wonder how their loved ones and dependents must be faring without them, every patient becomes a kindred spirit to the other. In this spirit, Shraddha exorcises the stigma that has come to be associated with mental illness over centuries.

(To be concluded in part 2.)

(Dr Bharat Vatwani is a Magsaysay Award winner. The views expressed are personal.)

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The following article was produced in partnership with Myer.

The stereotypical Australian man is tough, stoic and rugged. A hunter, not a gatherer; a blokes bloke with a devil-may-care attitude; someone who isnt afraid to get dirty. These stereotypes, however, are beyond outdated.

This week is Mens Health Week and were asking Australian men to look beyond those stereotypes and start taking better care of themselves.

Celebrated around the world, Mens Health Week seeks to put an emphasis on not just the mental health of men, but their general health as a whole. Its easy to dismiss things like Mens Health Week, but its not something we should take lightly.

Indeed, thats the core of the issue. Many men are still reluctant to look after themselves or talk about mens health out of a fear of not being considered manly. But its exactly this macho culture we often find ourselves engaging with that really does a number on our health.

On average, one in eight men will experience depression and one in five men will experience anxiety at some stage of their lives, according to BeyondBlue. Furthermore, men make up an average seven out of every nine suicides every single day in Australia. Its the leading cause of male deaths in this country, more than double the road toll. Its something we need to take more seriously.

The subject of mens mental health may finally be receiving more attention, but there is still much work to be done. Men continue to believe they cant show emotion, and if they do, theyre told to man up. And this is despite the well-known saying real men cry. Its time we start practising what we preach.

The same goes for our general health, too. Just as we men bottle things up when it comes to our mental health, we also tend to ignore our general health too. But again, men are at particular risk of many different health issues: 64.8% of skin cancer deaths in 2020 were men, 66.5% of deaths caused by liver disease were men and 58.9% of deaths caused by lung cancer were also male.

This all sounds grim, but the reality is that it doesnt take much to improve both your general and mental health and you can do both at the same time. Having a strong, consistent daily grooming routine, for example, isnt just great for keeping you looking good, but its also incredibly valuable when it comes to feeling good.

Myer, Australias favourite retailer for a variety of menswear and grooming products, is helping to lead the charge against dated male stereotypes, particularly those around grooming and personal maintenance.

Beauty is still very much an industry associated with women, with men worried that if theyre seen spending too much time thinking about beauty or grooming products, that theyre somehow less of a man.

Change is happening, as the mens skincare market is growing at around 10 per cent each year. Its certainly positive, but this figure needs to increase and more men need to be exposed to, and educated on, the benefits of investing in quality beauty products.

No matter how tough the facade one presents to the world, all men have different skin types with different needs: sensitive, oily, dry Looking after your specific skin type is imperative and Myers collection of stocked brands for men including the likes of Lab Series, Kiehls, Asop, Hunter Lab and Clinique offer some of the finest body washes, moisturisers, facial cleansers and more, all with the collective goal of helping men look and feel better in their body.

Products from the mentioned above brands are all formulated specifically for men. Not just in terms of skin type, but for convenience too.

Men dont feel the need to spend hours in the shower each morning. We like the process to be as quick and efficient as possible. Myers carefully curated collection of mens beauty and grooming products all offer convenience in a bottle, being quickly absorbed by the skin and without leaving a sticky residue.

Most important of all, theyre designed to perform, and after just a few uses youll soon wonder how you ever managed to live without them.

The same can be said of fragrance. While women will likely have their own virtual perfume shop at home, men will more than likely have one or two fragrances. If they do decide to change up their everyday smell, theyd rather their partner go out and buy it for them than be seen shopping for the latest fragrances themselves.

But why? The vast majority of men do apply cologne on a daily basis, so we shouldnt feel embarrassed to go shopping for a bottle of something new. Just the simple ritual of applying a cologne each day can help change a mans approach to the world. Smell good, feel good.

With such a wide range of choice on offer too, with Myer stocking leading name brands including Hugo Boss, Paco Rabanne, Chanel, Calvin Klein and Ralph Lauren, you dont even need to think about walking from store to store to find something new. Everything you need is under one roof.

Its no secret why Myer is shining the spotlight on Mens Health Week. Not only does it stock a huge range of products dedicated to male beauty and grooming, but it is a business that cares strongly about its customers, wanting to give them the best possible in-store and online experiences and helping them to find the products that perfectly align with their lifestyle.

Mens health doesnt have to be complicated invest in a strong routine with quality habits and products, and you can make sure youre always in tip-top shape.

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Renee Singh

Many of us are going through a super level of metamorphosis, trying to adjust to the new normal that has become a way of life for us now.

Slowly and steadily as the truth of our existing situation is settling in, we are silently settling within. It is actually a subtle shift.

Over the years, the human mind has learnt to be malleable in order to succeed. It knows how to adjust to its ever-changing circumstances and environment, so that it could be in a more productive phase constantly.

New beliefs

Slowly, as we assimilate all the new information we have been provided with, we have been working on changing our own belief system, so that we can be at an amicable level of adjustment to the world around us. This is the only way we can be viably productive, as we need to feel comfortable at all levels of functioning in society, in order to feel like winners. We are winners if we are allowing a channelised flow of our energy in the right direction.

Build a better self-image

This is how you see yourself. Are you seeing yourself as confident and assertive, or shy and scared? Do you see the positive in people, or the negative? Your opinion of yourself is what eventually makes or breaks you.

Positive thinking is a waste of time if you do it selectively. It determines how high you fly. We have the power to lift our self image or lower it.

Decision making skills

Ultimately it is your decision making skill that determines where you ultimately land yourself. Your sub-conscious mind is your powerhouse and your decision-maker.

Replay mental video

We think in pictures. The way we talk to ourselves, makes us create pictures mentally and that in turn controls how we feel emotionally.

We need to replay an event in our minds and then start positive self talk, telling ourselves how great we feel.

Talk your way to success

Often we are harsh and judgmental about ourselves. We are critical about every little thing we do. This, of course, arises from a negative self image. So, we need to change our perception of ourselves.

Importance of attitude

Attitude is more important than education, money or circumstances we cannot control. The one thing we are completely in charge of is our attitude. As the saying is that in life 10 per cent is what actually happens, and 90 per cent is how we react to it.

Know what you want

We are mostly scared to look within to see what we really want, what is it that our heart truly wants.

We are taught as kids not to have desires, but it needs to be understood that challenges are important for growth. Desire creates a focus and challenges the mind, which leads to growth.

Unlimited growth

Every human being needs to tap his potential. He needs to understand that sky is the limit. All is within our control, as long as we allow it.

Keeping all these factors in perspective, life should definitely become an exciting and fulfilling journey.

(Singh is a Chandigarh-based psycho therapist)

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Time stopped, and time passed, as a nation saw itself caught in a state of shock and disbelief on Saturday night, witnessing Christian Eriksen fight for his life. Luckily, the best Danish player in the 21st century is still alive after his sudden cardiac arrest in the 43rd minute of Denmarks Euro 2020 opener against Finland.

We will all remember those images for the rest of our lives, says John Sivebaek, who was part of the Danish team that sensationally won the European Championship in 1992.

When seeing Eriksens collapse on TV, Sivebaek was himself reminded of his own past: When preparing his move to Manchester United in 1985, the medical examination detected a leaky heart valve. His condition was monitored throughout his career, and finally, in 2012, he went through an operation.

It was tough for me back then, psychologically.

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In addition to the immediate grief of losing loved ones to the disease, mental health issues have stemmed from the myriad ways in which our everyday lifestyles have transformed

The COVID-19 pandemic and the lockdowns put in place to curb it have changed the very landscape of mental health globally. In addition to the immediate grief of losing loved ones to the disease, mental health issues have stemmed from the myriad ways in which our everyday lifestyles have transformed. This means that phenomena specific to the pandemic era have been reported, in addition to other previously recognised concerns that may have been related to staying in for long periods of time, or dealing with stressful circumstances.

Here's a look at the mental health issues people are experiencing as a result of the coronavirus pandemic:

Zoom fatigue

For anyone working from home, using Zoom or similar applications to attend meetings or interact with colleagues has become an inevitable part of life. A work schedule inundated with video calls can cause its own kind of burnout. Researchers at Stanford identified four reasons for this particular type of fatigue: excessive eye contact at a close proximity, which our eyes and brains interpret as an intense situation; seeing oneself on video for long periods, which one would not normally do during pre-pandemic times; the inability to move aroundduring a meeting; a higher cognitive load since non-verbal cues are tougher to read virtually.

The solutions they have outlined are simple and easy to implement: reducing the size of the Zoom window, using the 'hide self view' button when video presence isn't needed, placing the video camera/device further away from oneself, giving oneself audio-only breaks and putting the video mode off.

Languishing

Describedas a 'blah' feeling, languishing is marked by a lack of focus or drive to do anything. It is distinct from burnout and depression; individuals have reported aimlessness and joylessness. Organisational psychologist Adam Grant's essay about the subject in The New York Times describes it as the neglected middle child of mental health. While flourishing is the peak of well-being, depression is its polar opposite, and languishing sits somewhere in between these two states. The term was reportedly coined by sociologist Corey Keyes.

Grant says it is the consequence of the prolonged nature of the pandemic. The initial fear of the virus and the need to follow certain patterns to maintain safety marked the early period of the pandemic the author terms this anguish. A year on, with no seeming end to the pandemic in sight, anguish has been replaced by languishing. The danger of languishing is that one doesn't actively recognise the dulling of their focus, or want to act upon this dulling, creating an attitude of indifference about one's general sense of indifference.

The antidote to languishing is reportedly maintaining a flow and immersed interest in one's tasks, in an attempt to beat indifference. Grant suggests that individuals should give themselves uninterrupted time to finish tasks, and focus on small goals to this end.

Also read on Firstpost:2020, a year in mental health: Grief, anxiety, doomscrolling there's another pandemic alongside COVID-19

Grief

Grief has assumed a sort of omnipresence in our lives, but this feeling isn't just a consequence of losing a loved one or reading the statistics of deaths that have taken place due to the coronavirus . An interview with David Kessler, co-author ofOn Grief and Grieving withElisabeth Kbler-Ross, revealed that individuals are feeling many different kinds of grief at the same time.

As a society, we are also experiencing this state collectively, and about many different aspects, such as financial losses, extreme changes, etc. One of the foremost experts on the subject, Kessler told Harvard Business Review that one of the main kinds of grief people felt was anticipatory, which stemmed from the feeling of an uncertain future. This cuts into the feeling of safety and security that marks 'normal' times.

Kessler is of the opinion that accepting and understanding grief is where the power of processing it lies. He also suggested trying to achieve a balance in thoughts acknowledging that not all of our loved ones have left us, and reminding oneself that the pandemic, however long drawn, is still temporary. Another key step is identifying and naming what you're feeling (and this may be useful for the other mental health issues that are a result of the pandemic, too). "There is something powerful about naming this as grief. It helps us feel whats inside of us," he said.

Compassion fatigue

An issue frequently reported by people in healthcare and counselors and psychologists, compassion fatigue is exhaustion from caring a cost of being compassionate. Individuals who suffer from this have expressed feeling a sense of hopelessness after reading the news and keeping abreast about causes one cares about, especially headlines that evoke a sense of defeat. It causes burnout and secondary traumatic stress. It leads to a lack of appetite, an inability to sleep and go about one's everyday tasks. It can also make one more susceptible to other mental health issues.

Also read on Firstpost:Why addressing compassion fatigue amid the coronavirus crisis is crucial to navigating such extraordinary times

The scale of the pandemic, the news about strife, protests and rights violations, and uncertainty about the future caused many to experience compassion fatigue. To combat this issue, experts recommend monitoring the amount of information one consumes, drawing clear boundaries about what you can and cannot do, and institutional training on resilience building for those who are high-risk individuals.

Relatedly, experts have spoken about the dangers of 'doomscrolling' "the compulsive need to try and get answers when were afraid," as one BBC report puts it. It involves endlessly scrolling on social media and through news, especially bad news. The pandemic has caused people to doomscroll because of an excess amount of time on their hands, as well as a need to constantly keep consuming news about COVID-19 . Users have also reported 'pleasure' associated with this act, of having read something dreadful while within the comfort of their secure homes. Some also doomscroll in the hope of finding a spot of good news.

Experts suggest keeping track of the amount of time spent on social media and while trawling through the news, putting reminders to put one's phone off, and pledging to put away one's phone for certain periods of time.

Revenge bedtime procrastination

Many people have reported not wanting to go to bed after a long, tiring day at work, instead wanting to be on their phones, scrolling through social media or Wikipedia articles, or doing equally mundane things. Reportedly a term coined in China, revenge bedtime procrastination is eating into people's sleep as they try to reclaim free time from their days by staying up for longer. It is an almost vengeful attempt to get me-time, reports The Washington Post. In several cases, this has coincided with people willingly giving up free time in the day to do work, as opposed to taking time off.

The Washington Post suggests carving out time for oneself and making the most of it, as well as pruning one's schedule as ways to counter this type of procrastination. The BBC reports that bringing an end to this tendency to cut down on sleep will require institutional changes, wherein employees speak to their bosses about a routine that works for them. A labour sociologist quoted in this report says that by encouraging employees to sleep longer, employers will actually ensure higher productivity levels.

Pandemic burn out

Individuals especially millennials have reported feeling burnt out even before the pandemic brought the world to a halt, and our offices into our homes. In her iconic BuzzFeed essay, Anne Helen Petersen wrote about "errand paralysis", the tendency to put aside and delay undertaking simple but essential tasks, resulting in a hauntingly long to-do list, and shame about not ticking things off it. The pandemic has exacerbated burn out and the phenomena that result from it. The inability to focus because of grief and languishing is now at odds with our need to be perpetually productive.

Social distancing and an increasingly online work life has, ironically, brought our jobs and colleagues within closer reach, while pushing our loved ones far away. Our email inboxes and meetings are accessible within the click of a button, and on multipledevices. The blurring of boundaries between the home space and work space has resulted in individuals putting in longer hours, as well as multitasking (for example, checking updates while on a Zoom call). The absence of a commute and other activities like being able to go to the gym or out for a meal has meant that our minds don't have time to prepare for the next work task, or ways to separate and structure the different hours of our days.

Also read on Firstpost: Re-thinking productivity during the pandemic, countering a culture obsessed with being 'useful'

An essay in The Conversation suggests changing our lives to mimic how they used to be pre-pandemic taking time off, having casual conversations and trying to separate the assigned work spaces in our houses from the spaces where we spend off-time. The Harvard Business Review says that burnout is a subjective, individual issue that needs individual-specific solutions and preventive strategies, which involve self-reflection, compassion for the self and support from one's employers.

More on the intersection of mental health and the coronavirus pandemic on Firstpost:

Coronavirus crisis' mental health burden: Notes on battling germophobia during a pandemic

COVID-19 and mental health: All you need to know about toxic positivity and how to deal with it during the pandemic

Survivor's guilt is a growing issue among those grieving COVID-19 losses; timely intervention could alleviate distress

For people living with trauma, the coronavirus outbreak can be a trigger, or familiar psychological territory

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As we now know it, Nirvana's Nevermind changed the face of music back in 1991, but Dave Grohl says he never envisioned the kind of success they'd achieve, even though friends were quick to praise the album ahead of its release.

Speaking with Uncut magazine, Grohl recalls a number of friends telling them that they were going to be huge. We would go, What? What are you talking about?' the drummer continued. Donita [Sparks] from L7 came by and said we were going to be fucking huge. My old friend Barrett Jones, who I had grown up with in Virginia, who was a musician and a producer himself, heard Lithium and said we were going to be fucking huge. He thought Lithium should be the first single."

Everyone had these lofty opinions and I thought, Well, its nice of you to say so, but there is no fucking way that is ever going to happen, adds Grohl.

It was easy to see why Grohl would have his doubts as he adds, "You also have to remember what was popular [in music] at the time. It was Wilson Phillips, it was Mariah Carey and fucking Bon Jovi. It was not bands like us. So it seemed totally implausible that we would ever even get close to that kind of success."

That said, Grohl said he knew the band had a great record on their hands. It all sounded great: the drum sound at [recording studio] Sound City, Butch Vigs production. The band was tight and Kurts songs were fucking great," recalls the drummer. "We would do one or two takes and maybe do an overdub here and there, Kurt would go in and do the vocal and it was crystal clear and so fucking powerful, melodic and beautiful that youre proud of [it] and we were definitely proud of it.

Nevermind was Nirvana's second release. After a September 1991 release, buoyed by the success of radio and MTV hit "Smells Like Teen Spirit," the album finally hit No. 1 in January of 1992. The record would yield four singles with "Come As You Are," "Lithium" and "In Bloom" following. The album is now diamond certified in the U.S. with over 10 million albums sold.

Earlier this year, Dave Grohl revealed that the living members of the band - himself, Krist Novoselic and Pat Smear - still get together and jam. "We dont like run through a big oldNirvanasetlist but we do like to fool around and sometimes as were fooling around, songs happen. And you know if were in a studio well record them. So weve recorded some stuff thats really cool. But weve never done anything with it. But to us, I think, to us, its, its more just like friends, jamming around, it doesnt really seem like any sort of like big official reunion or anything," Grohl told Howard Stern.

Music has the power to move people. It also has the power to move them to action.

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Developing your knowledge, learning new things and adapting to changes are a few definitions of having a growth mindset.

Being a better person, especially in your workplace, can equal success. And it all boils down to having a positive attitude toward things.

In biotechnology, where change is constant in terms of development, having a progressive mindset is essential to improve life through science.

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Dr. Carol Dweck, a psychology professor at Stanford University, revealed in her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success that having a growth mindset allows improvement and development in your brain, intelligence and talents.

At the same time, the person who is willing to grow develops for the better. They are more likely to become better people as their skillsets are improved through training, hard work and perseverance.

They improve on their failures and learn from their mistakes to become better people.

She also concluded that humans have two types of mindsets -- a growth mindset and a fixed mindset.

The opposite of having a growth mentality is having a fixed mindset. If a growth mindset thinks about developing new skills and knowledge, having a fixed one has their intelligence stuck at a more static state.

A person with a fixed mindset avoids challenges, gives up easily when faced with an obstacle, is emotional about negative criticisms and is threatened by other peoples success.

People like this dont develop growth in their career and experience a plateau by not allowing themselves to improve and reach their full potential.

Having a fixed mindset doesnt mean its the end of the road for someone. Small and progressive changes can be done to turn it around.

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Here are some of the ways you can improve yourself and develop a growth mindset.

Failure gives a person the ability to learn from any mistake. Embracing failure is a way to be a better person. This way, youll see the things you need to improve on.

Ignoring your failures can inhibit your ability to reach a state of success.

Pushing yourself to the limits makes for a very good learning experience. For some people, a challenge could be a negative experience. But when you have a growth mindset, a challenge should be a way to grow and learn.

Doing the same tasks over and over will prevent you from learning new things. Change can be difficult for some since it will let them out of their comfort zones, but it is a way to improve your skills and gain new knowledge.

Fostering grit can help you move forward and be focused on your goals, even if there are obstacles that you have to face along the way.

List down and set goals to give you an idea of what you need to pursue. This activity will allow you to move forward.

Crossing out a goal and moving on to the next one gives you the mental capacity to finish and go through things in an orderly way.

Have an open mind and be curious about everything. Dont think that if you know about something, then youll have to stop learning.

Explore even further to give yourself more knowledge about things. Youll be surprised at how much more youll learn. Never stop learning.

Adding yet to your vocabulary helps you overcome anything despite any challenges or struggles you face.

You need to alter your attitude of being an I cant do it person. Having an optimistic attitude helps you do anything and be an inspiration for people around you. Infect other people with positivity.

Listening to feedback and adjusting yourself lets you grow and learn new things. Stop being a know it all, and instead be open to criticisms since it will help you become better and change yourself from your mistakes.

It is not just about adjusting your way of thinking, but also about helping yourself become mentally and physically fit.

Physical activities such as jogging or stretching and mental activities like meditation can help you focus on things and clarify your mind.

Here are some examples of having a growth mindset in the workplace.

When being corrected or criticized, a person should use the feedback to improve themselves instead of being hurt or ignoring the comments.

In a team, learning how your teammates work can help you learn new skills. It can also be a way to develop a more efficient work environment because everyone will know how each member works.

When picking a new member for your team, look at a persons strengths and see how you can learn and grow from each other. Doing this can help improve the work environment and let that person adjust easily. It can be beneficial for you both.

Insecurities may arise when facing new tasks. Instead of having the mindset of failing because of the lack of experience in one field, let it be an opportunity to learn new skills and grow.

Experiment or consider new strategies. It could open a whole lot of ideas to improve your workflow and learn new things.

In biotechnology, constant learning and being open to other peoples thinking can spark innovative concepts to develop new ideas.

In the working world, having a growth mindset can lead to success. Continuous learning and being a better person can be contagious and can equate to a healthy work environment.

And in life, being optimistic and always thinking about growing is a great way to improve yourself and be a better person.

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