Myo-jang, president of the Korean Buddhist Foundation for Social Welfare, poses for a photograph at Jeondeung Temple, South Korea's oldest Buddhist monastery. (Jean Chung / For The Times)

Three monks, a horde of reporters and 20 singles looking for love walked into a Buddhist temple.

The singles sat on gray mats in the center of the temples study hall, visibly tense because the two dozen reporters crammed in the back were causing a small scene.

An irritated cameraman snapped at a competitor: Can you get out of my shot?

The three monks of the Jogye order South Korea's largest Buddhist sect, with around 12 million followers looked on with placid smiles.

So began the third edition of Naneun Jeollo or To the temple a matchmaking event launched last year by the Korean Buddhist Foundation for Social Welfare to fulfill the religions commitment to fostering social cohesion.

One of the organizers reminded the participants of the weekends stakes: nothing less than the future of the country.

Im sure all of you have noticed how that day-care center in your neighborhood has one day turned into a nursing home, he said, pulling up a computer slideshow titled Aging Society.

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It showed that over the last two decades the number of babies born each year had been halved and that by 2050 the elderly would make up roughly 40% of the total population, straining the countrys welfare systems and deepening labor shortages.

The singles took in the figures with polite yet stony expressions.

For the sake of the low birthrate, the presenter concluded in an upbeat tone, all you have to do today is actively participate and find a good partner.

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The Buddhists modeled the weekend after a matchmaking reality TV series called I Am Solo, which has produced eight marriages and gained a nationwide following.

This along with the unusual premise of celibate ascetics taking on the challenge of worldly romance has given the Buddhist version its own viral fame, which the foundation hoped to maximize by opening it to the press.

We want to spread the word, said Myo-jang, the monk who leads the foundation. Were hoping one day there will be an edition for every Buddhist temple in the country.

The participants 10 men and 10 women had been told to expect some media, but not the film sets worth of cameras that followed them into a courtyard for formal introductions.

My mind is going blank, said one of them, a 30-year-old who works in finance. I thought there would be at most one TV crew. I feel like someone who just committed a huge crime.

The name on his badge Seong-hun was a pseudonym drawn from a pile, just like on the TV show.

He was one of 147 men and 190 women who had applied to participate in the April weekend, held at Jeondeung Temple, the oldest Buddhist monastery in the country.

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We screen the participants very carefully, Myo-jang said. We want to make sure that there arent people looking for one-off flings.

The weekend was free and open to all religions. Applicants were required to submit employment records and a personal essay, and age and geography were taken into account to maximize the chances of long-term coupling. But Myo-jang said one factor was the most important: yearning.

Only those who hungered for true love, like Seong-hun, had made the cut. Since his last serious relationship in college, Seong-hun had discovered finding love to be difficult. He disliked dating apps, but large social gatherings sapped him. His mother had been telling him to take dating lessons.

At some point in the relentless struggle to find financial stability, life had begun to feel like a perpetually half-full glass that just wouldnt fill up all the way.

Ive gotten too cautious in my 30s, he said. When I was younger, pure attraction was all I needed, but now, I find myself getting hung up on little doubts way too early in the relationship.

What exactly he was looking for, he didnt know.

I think what Im drawn to is someone whos tough on the outside, but soft on the inside, he said.

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After the singles had changed into their uniforms a traditional Buddhist garment consisting of a magenta vest and wide-fitting navy pants Shim Mok-min, the professional emcee hired for the event, gathered them around him.

Shim, who was dressed in a baby blue suit, estimated he had done about 50 events like this one. Most of them were hosted by local governments as part of a national effort to bring the countrys nosediving fertility rate the number of children the average woman has over her lifetime closer to the 2.1 needed to maintain a stable population.

The soaring cost of homeownership, poor work-life balance and the fracturing of traditional gender roles have continued to push South Koreans away from marriage and reproduction.

More than half of those between the ages of 30 and 34 are unmarried, and last year, the countrys fertility rate already the worlds lowest fell to 0.72.

Some of the matchmaking events Shim hosted had storybook endings, like one held by the city of Yongin that produced a marriage. The mayor officiated the couples wedding, and Shim emceed their childs first birthday party.

But far more often, they ended up turning into a game of survival.

Ive seen the women being swapped out with each new group while the men stay the same, round after round, Shim said. One event I did had two women and 18 men.

The games he was now moderating were icebreakers designed to tease out any early attractions and encourage small acts of physical contact.

At events where everyone is new to this format, you have to push them a bit, he said. The ultimate goal is to direct traffic so that participants have clear paths they can pursue later on.

Shim had the singles take turns answering questions from the rest of the group.

Your hair is so nice, one of the men told Ji-su, a 33-year-old policewoman. What do you use on it?

Ji-su cracked a smile and mumbled an answer.

By the time the group moved on to team bingo, any initial shyness had been replaced by a total commitment to winning. With every point scored, the singles screamed and high-fived one another.

Shim frantically reminded them why they were here.

You are here to find your other half, he said. The games are just a means to an end!

A round of speed dating, in which the men and women took turns having short conversations with one another, wrapped things up.

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For dinner at the temple cafeteria, the singles would split off into pairs. The women with the highest game scores were given first pick, and a program organizer led them outside, one after another, to a laptop displaying head shots of the men.

That was tiring but fun, said Seon-jae, who was picked fifth by a 31-year-old dental hygienist.

He didnt know if he liked her back yet.

I guess Ill have to talk to her and find out, he said.

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After dinner, the group convened for one more round of games.

Shim turned down the mood, leading the group in a meditative chant, instructing the singles to hold hands and gaze into each others eyes.

Empty your minds, Shim said.

Knees were now being touched, whispers shared and heads drawn together.

Bring your mats closer together, Shim said.

Seong-hun talked animatedly with Yu-jin, a 33-year-old real estate consultant whose sister had met her husband at a Buddhist temple.

Ji-su, the policewoman, was in a quiet conversation with her partner looking charmed, until one of the reporters walked over and stuck his camera about a foot from her face, making her recoil.

For the evenings final act, everyone took a short walk to the teahouse for a romantic cafe outing, but with rotating partners. After a few hours of conversation under the soft yellow lights, couples would choose their dates for the next mornings nature walk.

The participants will text us who they like the most later tonight, said Kong Ji-yu, one of the organizers. If theres a match, the two will be paired together for the walk. For the rest, well partner them with someone we feel suits them.

Last years event had produced two matches, with one of the couples reportedly still dating. The organizers, observing the proceedings from the lobby, were now hoping for three.

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The singles sipped fruit tea at the wooden tables, looking relaxed and sleepy. Camera-wielding reporters zipped through the narrow aisles like bees, zooming in on faces and hands.

After a few rotations, Yu-jin, the real estate consultant, went to the counter to refill her lemon tea, looking up to see a reporter in a long trench coat pointing his handheld camera at her.

The reporter, who was filming a news documentary for national broadcaster KBS, fed her a line.

Say I want to meet a good partner through this program, the reporter said. Just once, really quickly.

Yu-jin reluctantly obliged.

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Seong-hun went to bed early that night feeling contemplative.

Here he was trying to escape the casualness of dating apps, only to feel like he was cheating every time his conversation partner changed.

I realized I need to start by figuring out what exactly Im looking for, he said. Maybe Ive just been overcomplicating things in my head.

The next morning at the courtyard, Kong, the program organizer, looked pleased.

There were four matches last night, she announced.

To avoid hurt feelings, she added, the details of who picked whom wouldnt be revealed to the group.

Seong-hun had asked the organizers to pair him with someone at random. He sat with his assigned date at one of the tables outside the cafe and dived into a conversation about lifes malaise, while a camera drone buzzed overhead capturing the strolling couples posing for photographs by the cherry blossoms.

Huddled together a few tables over with an air of weariness was a group of four calling themselves the failed couples. They had dropped any pretense of romance and skipped the walk.

What's more, the participants were fed up with the reporters from KBS. One of them tricked me into an interview by asking me to just sit down for a second, said Chae-won, a 32-year-old gym teacher.

Would events such as these and their steady contribution of new couples help reverse South Koreas fertility crisis? The group was skeptical.

What really needs to be addressed is the cost of living and housing prices, Chae-won said, as the rest of the group nodded along. Right now, I already have my hands full just from looking after myself.

Even if she ended up getting married, she would think twice before having a baby.

I see colleagues getting the stink eye for having to take a day off because of their child, she said. Things have supposedly gotten a lot better in that regard, but thats still how it goes.

Later, the matched couples would be encouraged to pursue their relationship beyond the temple walls, under their real names.

And at the closing ceremony, Yeo-am, the temple's abbot, offered some parting words of wisdom.

Relationships, he said, were made not from a burning love but quietly accruing affection.

My sense is that there are another three or so potential couples in this group, he said, pointing to the two singles nearest to him. Why dont you two try seeing each other?

The two laughed awkwardly.

When the abbot began taking questions, Seong-hun raised his hand.

How do I get rid of this emptiness, this feeling that Im missing something important in life? he asked.

The abbot told him to begin every morning by performing exactly 108 bows, a meditation exercise in Korean Buddhism. And for all the weekend's emphasis on finding a partner, the abbot's advice was a reminder that some journeys in life must be made alone.

Thats something you must resolve on your own, the abbot said. No other person can save you from it.

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