Many so-called beautiful relationships go wrong and a lot of people dismiss them as irreconcilable differences. Some get so hurt they swear not to go into another relationship ever again. Others immediately jump into another relationship, hoping this time it would be better.

How does one avoid such circumstances? Here are a few pointers that have worked for many. I trust that they would work for you as well.

Getting along with you

First and foremost, you must develop a relationship with yourself. You have to be able to get along with you. When you are so discombobulated within your self, please, please, it isnt the right time to get into a relationship thinking that it is what will settle your within and bring you joy.

I guarantee you its not going to happen. You cant even relate to yourself harmoniously, how will you now relate to another human being who just might be as confused as yourself? Please be reminded that we do attract like-minds.

Yes, there is chemistry, yes there is attraction, but they are not a guarantee for a happy relationship. Sure, the sex is great, but what happens after that?

Do you really like you? Can you be alone with yourself, or do you always have to have people around you? If not, do you have a blaring radio or television on? Let me repeat, what is your relationship with yourself really like?

Pain-body

Your state of mind is also just as important. The number of people you havent forgiven matters. And that includes having forgiven yourself for all the so-called mistakes you have made. Be aware that all these you are bringing to the relationship you have decided to enter.

Secondly, you must consider the pain-body of the person you are about to share your life with. Pain-body is defined by Eckhart Tolle as the body of pain that we have built in our consciousness from the time we were conceived. Take into account what your mother was going through when you were in her womband after you were born, add all the pain you went through physically, mentally and emotionally.

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