Virgo (23rd August to 22nd September) Monthly Horoscope Prediction says,Embrace New Beginnings and Inner Growth

July brings opportunities for personal growth and relationship harmony for Virgos. Embrace change and focus on self-improvement.

This month, Virgos will experience positive changes in various aspects of life, including love, career, and health. Embrace new beginnings and focus on nurturing yourself and your relationships for overall growth and happiness.

Virgos can expect a harmonious month in love. For those in relationships, mutual understanding and deeper connection will flourish, enhancing the bond with your partner. Single Virgos might find new romantic interests through social gatherings or mutual friends. The key to a successful love life this month is communication. Open, honest discussions can resolve past misunderstandings and lay the groundwork for future stability. Embrace vulnerability and let your true feelings show, which will invite genuine connections and deepen existing relationships.

Your professional life looks promising this July, Virgo. New opportunities for growth and advancement may come your way. It's a great time to showcase your skills and take on new projects. Your meticulous nature and attention to detail will impress superiors and colleagues alike. However, avoid overcommitting and ensure you maintain a healthy work-life balance. Networking can play a crucial role this month, so engage with peers and mentors to gain new insights and opportunities. Stay organized and focused to achieve your career goals.

Financial stability is on the horizon for Virgos this month. Careful planning and budgeting will help you manage expenses and save for the future. You may find new income sources or opportunities to increase your earnings. Avoid impulsive spending and make informed decisions regarding investments. Seek advice from financial experts if necessary to ensure you're on the right track. Keep an eye on your long-term financial goals and work towards them steadily. With prudent management, you can enjoy a secure financial outlook.

Health and wellness take center stage for Virgos this month. It's an excellent time to adopt healthier habits and routines. Focus on balanced nutrition, regular exercise, and adequate rest to boost your overall well-being. Mental health is equally important, so consider practices like meditation or yoga to maintain inner peace. If you've been ignoring any lingering health issues, now is the time to address them. Consult healthcare professionals as needed. Prioritize self-care and listen to your body's needs to maintain optimal health throughout the month.

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Its a disconcerting but unmistakable fact that in an age of climate change-related natural disasters, parents may now find themselves fielding more questions from their children about wildfires, tornadoes, extreme heat, and hurricanes and facing the prospect of guiding their kids through an emergency.

Given all the stressors families face on a daily basis, discussing and planning for such extreme events often falls by the wayside. We know by the data that many Americans live in the moment, and theres so much on familys plates that it's hard to remember to think about something in the future, says Melissa Brymer, the director of terrorism and disaster programs for the UCLA-Duke University National Center for Child Traumatic Stress.

Thinking about the possibility of a natural disaster impacting your family can be overwhelming, so it makes sense that you would want to avoid it. But having a plan in place that keeps your kids needs in mind in case an extreme weather event does occur is crucial. Even if you dont live in a part of the country prone to these events, climate-related disasters are striking everywhere and with greater frequency. Preparedness logistically, physically, and emotionally is more important than ever.

Broaching the topic doesnt need to be distressing, experts say. Rather, its possible to talk honestly about the potential of a climate event while still allaying kids anxieties and giving them space to discuss their emotions. Despite how stressful it can seem, there are also strategies to help your kids cope if your family is affected by a natural disaster.

Parents understandably want to protect their children from unpleasant emotions, but try not to minimize the likelihood of a natural disaster, says Caroline Hickman, a climate-aware psychotherapist who focuses on eco-anxiety in children and young people. You dont want to frighten your child, but you do want them to be prepared in case there is an emergency.

Consider the chance of certain extreme weather events where you live and give them age-appropriate guidance on how your family would stay safe, says American Academy of Pediatrics spokesperson David Schonfeld, the director of the National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement. Younger kids respond well to storytelling, Hickman says, while older kids might roll their eyes and resist. But you have to be very firm with them and say, Look, I get it. Im annoying. You dont want to talk about it right now, but we are going to talk about it sometime this week, she says.

You might say to a younger child, Were entering into a season where we could get storms that bring a lot of rain and wind. But we will listen to the weather forecast and go to a place where the rain and wind arent as strong if we need to so we can stay safe. You could also take this opportunity to explain the concept of a go bag a backpack with essentials in the event you need to evacuate and ask them what they might pack in it, like a favorite toy. The US Department of Homeland Security offers free extreme weather preparedness resources for children and families.

I dont think the goal is just to let them know bad things can happen because thats just frightening. It isnt helpful, Schonfeld says. It is helpful if you can give them practical information about what they can do to decrease the risks and keep themselves and those they care about safe.

It can be helpful to ask kids, especially those in grade school, what they know about extreme weather events that occur where you live and how they feel about it, Hickman says. Chances are, they know as much as you do, if not more, she says, and children love teaching their parents things. This can give you an opportunity to correct them on any misinformation they may have read online or heard from friends.

Feelings come later when youre safe.

Let them know if they ever feel scared, anxious, or have any questions about natural disasters, youre here for them, says clinical psychologist Regine Galanti, author of Parenting Anxious Kids: Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage. Youll want to validate your childrens emotions without bringing in your own. Avoid statements like Im freaking out about this too, or You dont have to be scared. Instead try, Its gotten too hot in our house so we have to go somewhere else to cool off. I know its last minute and Im not happy about it either. Well talk about it more in the car.

Thats actually super invalidating when you tell a kid not to feel their feelings, Galanti says.

Reassure your children that they dont need to take on the responsibility of keeping the family safe. Remind them that they can relax knowing that you will tell them when its time to take action, says Chandra Ghosh Ippen, the associate director of the Child Trauma Research Program at the University of California, San Francisco and author of the Trinka and Sam book series developed to help families with young children cope after natural disasters.

If a natural disaster is imminent, explain to your kids any precautions you are currently taking, Schonfeld says. You might say, Theres a bad storm coming and were going to go to the basement for a little while because its safer there, or, Were tracking this fire. It might hit our area but because we have a plan, well be safe since we are going to stay at grandmas if it does.

Youll want to model effective emotional coping even if youre feeling anxious, says Schonfeld. That means sharing that you do have some unpleasant feelings and outlining what youre doing to cope with them. You could mention, for instance, how the flooding made you nervous, but you remembered all of the steps your family has taken to stay safe and how you feel more prepared.

Avoid watching constant news or media coverage on TV or online, both for your own mental health and for your childs peace of mind. Choose quality sources of news and only read or watch as much as you need to be informed about what steps to take next. Kids are observant and will pick up on their parents anxieties, even if they dont understand exactly why they are upset, Ghosh Ippen says. If you need to take a moment to break down, do so in private. Because for us to provide that support for our children, Ghosh Ippen says, we need to have a place where we can metabolize.

In the event of an evacuation, tell your kids you are going to a place where you are absolutely certain you will be safe, Ghosh Ippen says. It can be helpful to give children a task, says Hickman, such as grabbing their go bag and a book or putting their shoes on. You might also mention that your familys role is to get out of the way so emergency responders can do their jobs. Dont feel like you must unpack any of your kids emotions during the height of an emergency, Hickman says: Feelings come later when youre safe.

Should you shelter in place, explain why youre doing so, Brymer says. You could say, The weather is dangerous so you cant play outside and we need to sit in the basement until the storm passes, or, Its too hot to go to the park today so were going to do some arts and crafts inside where its cool. Distracting your kids from the ongoing extreme weather event can help pass the time, especially if youve lost power, Schonfeld says. Try singing songs, playing games, building a pillow fort, or reading books.

In the aftermath of a natural disaster, its important parents dont pretend it didnt happen, experts say. You can praise your children for being mature and playing their part, Hickman says. Be truthful with your children if you are unable to return home right away and if there are disruptions to school. You could say, We need to stay here longer than we thought because our house was damaged in the storm, but youre safe here. Were going to continue to stay together as a family.

Parents should try to facilitate conversations with their kids to discuss how they feel about the disaster. Kids can mask how theyre feeling, Hickman says. You need to repeatedly ask those questions, because if you just do it once, and think were done big mistake, Hickman says. You need to come back to it. On the surface, children may appear calm, but are struggling to cope with the event. Acknowledge that it might have been scary and ask them how theyre feeling now. Chances are that if your family was directly impacted by the extreme weather event, your kids might know another family that has been, too. We get a secondary trauma or a vicarious trauma, Hickman says, which makes having repeated conversations necessary.

You need to repeatedly ask those questions, because if you just do it once, and think were done big mistake.

Children are more likely to be upset over the loss of their routines, Hickman says, and parents should acknowledge their childs emotions. You can lead the conversation by mentioning, I feel sad were dealing with all of this. Im wondering how you feel about it?

You show them how to deal with the emotion, Hickman says. Youre not collapsed on the floor in a mess.

Acknowledge any damage to property, too. Resist the urge to tell your kids that you can buy more toys, Schonfeld says, and instead affirm that you know how important they were to them. Try to reframe a childs sadness over losing their backyard tree house, for instance, as a sign of how much love they had for it.

If school is canceled, you can facilitate ways for kids to connect with their friends, Brymer says, whether through coordinating a playdate, FaceTiming with the other childs parents, or making artwork your kid can give to their friends when they see each other again.

Common reactions children might have after a natural disaster include sleep problems, difficulty concentrating, and developmental regression, like bedwetting or thumb-sucking. Give your child grace to self-soothe in the service of healing, Schonfeld says, but encourage them to move forward. Your goal is to get them back to normal as quickly as you can, Galanti says. So what extra supports do I need to give my kid to get them back to their normal? You should seek out a mental health professional if your child is harming themselves or others or if behavioral problems persist.

Continue to acknowledge how you feel in the aftermath so your kids know its okay to discuss their emotions, Brymer says. However, your child could feel confident and secure that youve kept them safe and may not be affected by the natural disaster, Ghosh Ippen says.

Regardless of the extreme weather event or the extent of disruption to your family, experts stress the importance of acknowledgment: that the event occurred, that your child might be scared, that they might have lost a routine. Keep the lines of communication open and let kids know that theyre allowed to feel any range of emotions.

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There are things I dont understand, I dont explain, I just feel. Have you ever experienced this?

Have you ever noticed that the best choices you make in life are those where you put your thoughts and reasoning aside a little and just observe where your body and soul fit best?

When you dont know what to do, but you learn to silence your mind, take some time and see where your being naturally feels most comfortable.

I think the best place in the world is where we fit in whole.

The mind may not understand, it may even want to contradict, the ego comes to give incisive opinions, but if we let life take shape on its own, transforming itself, adjusting itself, guiding us, we enter our natural flow, from where we should never have left.

I like to exercise my intuition in everything, in all decisions, from the clothes Im going to wear today to a professional or personal relationship choice.

Believe it or not, there is a force greater than reason that moves us.

And when you learn to let it grow, no matter how crazy the choice, the step, life will make more sense and become more coherent.

How to access this force?

Just feel it on your skin. Which clothes fit better with your eyes closed, without thinking about the opinions of others? Which person, friend, lover, fits by your side without pain, without struggle? What food goes better into your body? What profession, situation do you flow naturally, without interpretation, without persuasion, without masks?

At the end of the day, choose to be close to someone who dissolves you, even if its yourself as your best company. Choose the comfort of wearing your own skin.

Choose by smell, by touch, by an easy smile, by an involuntary desire.

Choose the contact that fits, the conversation that relaxes, the path of life that was made for you and was just waiting for you to catch on.

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After one year on the job, Savannah-Chatham County Public School System Superintendent Dr. Denise Watts took time on Wednesday, June 26 to reflect on lessons learned, personal growth, and more. Her comments came during a press conference held at Woodville-Tompkins and organized by SCCPSS communications.

It's been an exciting year. I continue to be honored and extremely privileged to serve as the 25th Superintendent of the Savannah-Chatham County Public School System, said Watts in her opening statement. Almost a year ago, I stood in a boardroom before the ink was dry on my contract. I said that I was uniquely prepared and ready to serve as a catalyst for change. And today, I'm even more convinced of this.

I'm very thankful to the Board of Education for providing the support and guidance to do my job. I'm confident that we will continue this work to reach our joint aspirations and inevitable success in the district. I've also had the opportunity to work with a world class staff. I have met and observed employees across every employee group. The blood, sweat, and tears are real. Their dedication is unmatched.

Being able to have the Davis-Edwards-Harris Educational Complex open under my leadership is something that I'm very proud of, Watts said.

She also addressed transportation of students as a priority, as well as literacy and teacher retention. The school district, under Watts, has already approved raises for district staff members to include teachers. SCCPSS partnered with Chatham Area Transit (CAT) this year for a trial program where students ride for free. It was an effort to increase attendance numbers in Savannahs public schools and it could continue next school year.

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Teacher burnout was one of the things that I heard loud and clear when I got here. Teacher burnout is real, she said. It's real not only here, but it is real all across the nation. To be able to have some immediate solutions to resolving teacher burnout that included the voices of our teachers has been very productive work.

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Sometimes the opportunities to hear from teachers can come in the most unexpected of places.

When I go out to eat on the weekends, or when Im in an Uber, 70 percent of the time I am encountering a teacher that is working a second job to sustain or supplement their income, Watts said. And that saddens me a great deal. I really use it as an opportunity to learn and ask questions and to gain insight and perspective. I don't use it as an opportunity to share much. It really is just a continued learning opportunity for me.

Those teachers are the same ones standing in classrooms the next morning in front of our students. So, the cost of living adjustment provided by the Governorand we are supplementing that in our districtis just a small signal that we have to reform teacher compensation.

Watts came to Savannah after serving as the Chief of Schools for Houstons Independent School District. That district included more than 194,000 students across 274 schools. While there,she supervised principals, managed magnet schools and led innovation and strategy efforts for the district. It was a big undertaking, but it was more of a background role.

Now, she says her job has put her squarely in the spotlight.

The community has certainly noticed.

I was just in Kroger on Saturday with my ball cap on doing grocery shopping and this little boy comes up to me and he's like, are you our superintendent? Just getting used to some people recognizing me when I am out just being a mom or wife has been something that I've learned this year and something that I'm willing to accept. I'm on the clock 24/7, if I want to be or not, and that's just part of the job.

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Personal growth and self-improvement are essential aspects of leading a fulfilling life. Our habits, both good and bad, shape our lives in profound ways. To become the best version of yourself, you must identify and eliminate the habits that hold you back. This article explores ten habits you should ditch to unlock your full potential and achieve the ultimate personal growth.

Procrastination is delaying or postponing tasks, often until the last minute. Its a common habit that can significantly negatively impact productivity and personal growth. When you procrastinate, you rob yourself of the opportunity to give your best effort and produce high-quality work.

To overcome procrastination, start by breaking large tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Set realistic deadlines for each step and hold yourself accountable. Use time management techniques like the Pomodoro method to stay focused and avoid distractions.

The way you talk to yourself matters. Negative self-talk can erode your self-esteem and limit your personal growth. Phrases like I cant do this or Im not good enough become self-fulfilling prophecies, holding you back from reaching your full potential.

To combat negative self-talk, practice self-awareness and catch yourself when you engage in negative thoughts. Reframe these thoughts in a more positive light. For example, instead of saying, I cant do this, try, This is challenging, but Im capable of learning and improving.

In the age of social media, its easy to fall into the trap of constantly comparing yourself to others. However, this habit can be detrimental to your self-worth and personal growth. Remember that everyones journey is unique, and what you see on social media is just an edited highlight reel.

Focus on your own progress and set goals aligning with your values and aspirations. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and use them as motivation to keep growing.

Self-care is not a luxury; its a necessity. Neglecting your physical, mental, and emotional well-being can lead to burnout, stress, and stunted personal growth. Common ways people neglect self-care include poor sleep habits, unhealthy eating, and lack of exercise.

Prioritize self-care by creating a sustainable routine that includes activities that nourish your body, mind, and soul. This could consist of regular exercise, healthy eating, meditation, or pursuing a hobby you enjoy.

Holding grudges is like carrying a heavy emotional burden that weighs you down and prevents you from moving forward. Its a habit that can damage relationships and hinder your personal growth.

Practicing forgiveness doesnt mean condoning hurtful behavior; it means freeing yourself from the negative emotions associated with the offense. Start by acknowledging your feelings and then decide to let go of the grudge. Focus on the present and the positive aspects of your life.

Fear of failure can paralyze you, preventing you from taking risks and seizing growth opportunities. While feeling apprehensive about trying something new or stepping out of your comfort zone is natural, allowing fear to control your actions limits your potential.

Reframe failures as learning experiences and opportunities for growth. Embrace challenges as chances to develop new skills and resilience. Remember that every successful person has faced failure at some point in their journey to success.

Relying on external validation for your self-worth is a dangerous habit. When you constantly seek approval from others, you give them power over your emotions and decisions. This can lead to people-pleasing behaviors and a lack of self-confidence.

Learn to trust and value your own opinions and decisions. Cultivate self-confidence by setting and achieving goals, practicing self-compassion, and surrounding yourself with supportive people who encourage growth.

Healthy boundaries are essential for maintaining positive relationships and protecting time and energy. Poor boundary setting can manifest as overcommitting, people-pleasing, or allowing others to take advantage of you.

To set and enforce boundaries, start by identifying your values and priorities. Communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively, and be prepared to say no when necessary. Remember that setting boundaries is not selfish; its an act of self-respect and self-care.

Change is inevitable, and adapting to it is crucial for personal growth and success. Resisting change often stems from fear or a desire to stay within your comfort zone. However, becoming stagnant can limit your opportunities for growth and learning.

Embrace change as an opportunity to expand your horizons and develop new skills. Be open to new experiences and perspectives, and view challenges as chances to grow and improve.

Living in the past and holding onto regrets can prevent you from fully engaging in the present and creating a better future. While learning from past experiences is essential, dwelling on them excessively can be detrimental to your mental well-being and personal growth.

Practice letting go of the past by focusing on the present moment and the opportunities ahead. Use mindfulness techniques to stay grounded in the present and cultivate a sense of gratitude for the lessons learned from past experiences.

Doug, a 35-year-old accountant, felt stuck and unfulfilled in his personal and professional life. Despite his stable job and decent income, he couldnt shake the feeling that he wasnt living up to his full potential. Doug often procrastinated on essential tasks, engaged in negative self-talk, and neglected his physical and mental well-being.

One day, Doug decided to take control of his life and make a change. He started by identifying the habits holding him back, such as constantly comparing himself to his colleagues and seeking validation from others. Doug realized that these habits prevented him from taking risks and pursuing his true passions.

Doug began implementing small changes in his daily routine to break free from these limiting habits. He prioritized self-care by setting aside time for exercise and meditation, and he practiced reframing negative thoughts into positive, growth-oriented ones. Doug also started setting boundaries at work, learning to say no when necessary, and focusing on tasks aligned with his values and goals.

As Doug continued to work on himself, he noticed significant improvements in his overall well-being and job satisfaction. He felt more confident in his abilities and was no longer afraid to take on new challenges. Dougs newfound mindset and habits allowed him to excel in his career and eventually pursue his dream of starting his own accounting firm. By ditching the habits that once held him back, Doug transforms his life and becomes the best version of himself.

Personal growth is an ongoing journey that requires self-awareness, dedication, and a willingness to let go of limiting habits. By ditching these ten habits procrastination, negative self-talk, comparing yourself to others, neglecting self-care, holding grudges, fear of failure, seeking validation from others, lack of boundaries, resisting change, and dwelling on the past you can unlock your full potential and become the best version of yourself.

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Recently, psychologist Maytal Eyal has observed what she calls an epidemic of self-hatred. Both within her work as a therapist and in her wider community, Eyal noticed how the weight of self-criticism and self-loathing wears on peoples souls. Its become sort of normalized, she says. And when people feel that way, they want to buy products to self-improve.

A consequence of the cultural obsession with self-improvement is the hyperfixation on the self. From elaborate skin care regimens to the culling of toxic friends from your social circle, some will go through extreme lengths in the name of self-preservation and betterment. However, weve collectively overcorrected when it comes to the impulse to self-correct. When theres always a new ideal to strive toward, a new workout to try, a new home renovation project, a new way to hack bodily functions, it can be hard to feel adequate, sufficient, enough. Very real socioeconomic, racial, and health factors impact a persons ability to feel fulfilled, too. When a society marginalizes people based on their income, background, or abilities, its extremely easy to feel like we dont measure up.

Regardless of your financial circumstances, living situation, or mental and physical health, inescapable psychological functions motivate us to strive for more. Taken too far, these compelling responses can also lead to overconsumption. The barrage of modern marketing and social media-driven comparison only furthers the desire to, well, desire. Theres nothing wrong with wanting to better your life, but there are ways to counter the innumerable pressures both internal and external urging you to spend or labor or improve to reach your full potential.

While all animals are compelled to survive, we as humans may be unique in the lengths to which well go to better that existence. The motivating drive that tells us to seek out food when were hungry or to find shelter when its raining is primed to find other creative life upgrades. A non-peer reviewed study found that when people were asked how certain objects and experiences, like their phone, their pets, and love, could be different, they consistently thought of ways these devices, creatures, and emotions could be better.

The reason why we went from hunting and gathering to living in skyscrapers is because someone had to imagine all of the improvements, says the studys co-author Adam Mastroianni, an experimental psychologist and author of the science newsletter Experimental History. It really does seem to be something very intrinsic in the way that humans work and that theyre always imagining how things can be better than they are right now. There is likely no limit to what people could dream of improving, Mastroianni says, considering how they imagined ways of bettering the experience of love: Theyre like, Oh, there could be more of it, Mastroianni says.

What allows us to strive for more is our ability to constantly adapt. Known as the hedonic treadmill or hedonic adaptation, we have an incredible capacity to acclimate to both positive and negative life events, settling at a base level of satisfaction after objectively good and not-so-good things happen. Hedonic adaptation is why buying a new car feels spectacular for a few weeks and then gradually less so until we realize we need something else to spark ecstasy again. Perhaps accidentally, a niche population of dopamine fasters recognized the phenomena of hedonic adaptation and denied themselves stimulating or enjoyable experiences as a means of staving off habituation for more mundane experiences.

Another factor that fuels our wants and desires is comparison. Not only do we compare ourselves to others, weighing our success and happiness against theirs, but we can juxtapose our current circumstances with what we could want in the future, says Rachit Dubey, a postdoctoral research fellow at MIT Sloan School of Management.

Paired together, hedonic adaptation and comparison mean the goalposts are constantly shifting. Achieving the goal or purchasing the item is just the start of the cycle. When the novelty wears off, we look for the next thing that might bring us self-actualization. Maybe our coworker or best friend or neighbor has that next thing. Then you go on to get that new, next shiny thing, Dubey says. Then you get habituated to it, then you do some more comparisons, and then you want something else. So this is the cycle of habituation and comparisons that can lead to this drive of always wanting more.

This cycle of longing almost never feels good. In a study, Dubey and his colleagues programmed virtual robots he calls agents to act like humans, meaning they got used to positive rewards they received and compared themselves to other agents. Habituation and comparison allowed the agents to achieve more in their virtual world, up to a certain point, but at the cost of their internal happiness, Dubey says. If the agents aspiration levels were left unchecked, their performance actually diminished.

There isnt much that differentiates having a goal and seeing each accomplishment as a step toward a larger pursuit, Dubey says. Because social comparison can motivate people to get a promotion or buy a mansion, there is little preventing us from constantly striving for more if weve already had success on a smaller scale. Even the most well-meaning goals can be taken too far, like turning a joyful hobby into a soul-sucking side hustle.

The instinct to improve our circumstances is a functional one in a society where resources are scarce. The problem arises when those who objectively already have enough and ample time and money are constantly marketed endless goods and opportunities. Then, habituation and comparison fuels unhappiness, Dubey says. Having enough money to cover necessities and conveniences is shown to make people happy, research shows, but earning much beyond that may be detrimental to life satisfaction. People can go from miserable to fine fairly easily, Mastroianni says. Its going from fine to great that gets really hard.

In the pursuit of fine to great, we chase products. Through no fault of our own, we fall prey to messaging from social media users, algorithms, and expert marketers, urging us that this shampoo or this rug will shift the scales toward enoughness. This is how the marketplace continues to work, says Brooke Erin Duffy, an associate professor of communication at Cornell University, which is by amplifying our inadequacies and insecurities.

Baked into these social platforms is a natural ecosystem for comparison. In the past, people weighed themselves against celebrities in the media and those within their immediate social circles, Duffy says. Now, we can compare ourselves to the idealized version of millions of strangers online who may be perpetuating an aesthetic trend inspiring us to buy in order to participate.

Where we falter is believing that more money, more things, better things, better selves will ultimately make us happy. Were obsessed with buying the serum so our skin looks really good, were obsessed with getting the new piece of equipment so that our body looks really good, Eyal, the psychologist, says. But we sort of lost the plot. In one sense, the quest for self-optimization may be a means of asserting control over our lives when war, climate change, and political polarization wreak havoc around us, she says. All the wanting, though, leads to overconsumption, Dubey says.

The hedonic treadmill has implications beyond individual happiness: Attempting to fill an imagined (often by a savvy advertiser) void with more products or swapping out perfectly adequate tech for the newest version taxes our already fragile planet. Dubey argues that we can strive for a better life, for something more, without consuming.

Feeling enough and having goals are not mutually exclusive. Goal-setting is shown to increase performance and motivation, research shows. However, not all goals are created equal, says Tal Ben-Shahar, the founder of the Happiness Studies Academy and a professor at Centenary University. Instead of setting goals based on accumulating things, we should work toward personal growth and development, Ben-Shahar says. This requires deep introspection to determine what we value. If we dont stop to consider what we want out of life and wind up following the status quo as a result, we may become focused on fulfilling someone elses idea of success. Determine whether a goal adds to happiness or detracts from it, Ben-Shahar says, whether it is truly attainable or out of reach, and whether it is something we actually want or something we observed someone else achieve. These may not be easy questions to answer, but theyre worth considering.

Another mindset shift involves moving away from feeling like we are at a deficit, Mastroianni says. If we perceive our starting point to be below baseline, well never climb out of that hole. This line of thinking assumes those who have different jobs than we do, or who live in different locations than us, or dont have the social connections we do cannot live full lives, he says. I ask myself this question a lot, Mastroianni says, if I dont get to live a life that I think is valuable, who does? Who has more than me?

To gain more perspective, many experts and researchers suggest expressing gratitude and appreciation for what we already have. Gratitude prevents us from habituating to the new car or the new job or the new relationship, Ben-Shahar says. Taking a few minutes over dinner or before bed to share or to journal about what were grateful for reminds us of all the ways were enough, instead of how we dont measure up. To avert the impact of hedonic adaptation, we continue to appreciate, Ben-Shahar says, so that we can experience both mindful and heartfelt connection to whatever it is that were appreciating.

Considering how habituation and comparison function and how the culture of consumption ratchets up those experiences its hardly surprising how difficult it is to feel satisfied. But, according to Ben-Shahar, it would serve us well to find the balance between appreciation and aspiration.

Good enough, he says, really is good enough.

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The single biggest art project in Chicago this spring, at least in terms of surface area, is a new commission by Nora Turato, the Croatian graphic designer-turned-multidisciplinary artist, for Art on the Mart, the public series that projects art onto the 2.5-acre exterior of the former Merchandise Mart building. Her projection (12 April-5 June) builds on recent projects including a commission for the 2023 Performa Biennial in New York and solo shows at Sprth Magerss spaces in Berlin (last year) and Los Angeles (until 27 April).

Running through all these projects, and playing across the Marts hulking exterior on the banks of the Chicago River, is Turatos interest in the culture of self-optimisation and the language of wellness culture and quasi-spiritual self-improvement incantations. Like a Millennial take on Jenny Holzers Truisms (1978-82), Turatos works isolate and amplify found sentences and phrasesbecause goals, unlock everything, govern me harderin funny and stark compositions rendered in videos, murals, performances and enamel-on-steel panels.

Everybodys reading, everybodys looking, everybody sees these things, Im not bringing anything new to the table; its just that Im the only one who stops and writes it down, Turato has said of her process. When you seek it out, it doesnt work You just have to live, you have to expose yourself to the content. Visitors to the Art Institute of Chicago will also be exposed to Turatos content when she performs there on 13 April .

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Dr. Augusto DaSilva of New York is a plastic surgeon based in East Northport, whose expertise and commitment to patient care have earned him recognition across multiple hospitals in the region. Affiliated with institutions such as St. Catherine of Siena Hospital and Good Samaritan University Hospital, Dr. Da Silva brings over two decades of medical experience to his practice. A graduate of St. Georges University School of Medicine, he is renowned for his dedication to surgical excellence and compassionate patient-centered care. In the following article, Dr. Augusto DaSilva of New York delves into the complex intersection of body positivity and cosmetic procedures to understand how individuals navigate their journey towards self-love and self-improvement.

In recent years, the dialogue surrounding body positivity has gained significant traction, urging individuals to embrace their bodies in all shapes, sizes, and forms. Concurrently, the popularity of surgical procedures continues to rise, driven by the desire to enhance ones appearance. However, the intersection of body positivity and cosmetic surgery poses intriguing questions about self-acceptance, societal norms, and personal empowerment.

At its core, body positivity advocates for the acceptance and celebration of all body types, free from societal judgments or unrealistic beauty standards. It encourages individuals to cultivate a positive relationship with themselves, regardless of size, shape, or imperfections. Embracing this involves challenging harmful stereotypes, promoting self-confidence, and fostering a culture of inclusivity and acceptance.

The Rise of Cosmetic Surgery

Conversely, cosmetic surgery offers individuals the opportunity to modify or enhance their physical features, addressing perceived flaws or insecurities. Dr. Augusto DaSilva of New York explains that from rhinoplasty to breast augmentation to liposuction, these procedures promise transformative results, often bolstering confidence and self-esteem. While cosmetic surgery can be a powerful tool for self-improvement, its essential to approach it with careful consideration and realistic expectations.

Navigating the Intersection

The intersection of body positivity and cosmetic surgery presents a nuanced landscape, where personal beliefs, societal pressures, and individual autonomy converge. For some, going under the knife aligns with their journey towards self-acceptance and empowerment. It may serve as a means of reclaiming agency over ones body, addressing long-standing insecurities, or enhancing self-confidence.

However, Dr. Augusto DaSilva of New York believes that the relationship between the two can be more nuanced than critics suggest. While its true that some view elective procedures through a lens of perpetuating unrealistic beauty standards, Dr. DaSilva emphasizes a different perspectiveone that celebrates individual choice and empowerment.

According to Dr. DaSilva, cosmetic surgery offers individuals the opportunity to enhance their confidence and self-esteem, not necessarily to conform to external ideals of beauty, but to align their outer appearance with their inner sense of self. For many patients, cosmetic procedures are not about chasing perfection, but about feeling comfortable in their own skin.

In Dr. DaSilvas view, cosmetic surgery can be a tool for self-expression and personal transformation. Rather than detracting from principles of body acceptance, Dr. DaSilva believes that cosmetic surgery can complement a journey towards self-love by enabling individuals to take control of their appearance and embrace their unique beauty.

By educating patients about their options and guiding them through the process, he ensures that each individual is informed to make choices that align with their personal goals and values.

Ultimately, Dr. DaSilva sees cosmetic surgery as a positive force for enhancing both physical appearance and emotional well-being. By reframing the conversation around cosmetic procedures as a means of self-empowerment rather than conformity, he hopes to promote a more inclusive and accepting approach to body positivity.

Empowerment vs. Conformity

Dr. Augusto DaSilva of New York explains that its crucial to recognize that the decision to undergo cosmetic surgery is deeply personal and multifaceted. Factors such as cultural influences, personal experiences, and mental health considerations can all play a role in shaping an individuals choices. As such, blanket judgments or criticisms fail to acknowledge the complexity of each persons journey towards self-acceptance.

Promoting Informed Choices

In navigating the intersection of body positivity and cosmetic surgery, education and informed decision-making are paramount. Individuals considering cosmetic procedures should thoroughly research their options, consult with qualified medical professionals, and critically examine their motivations.

Dr. Augusto DaSilva of New York notes that by promoting inclusivity and acceptance, we can create a more supportive environment for individuals to navigate their relationship with their bodies.

The Role of Mental Health

Additionally, its essential to address the role of mental health. For many individuals, body image concerns stem from deep-seated insecurities or past traumas. While cosmetic surgery may offer temporary relief, its not a panacea for underlying psychological issues.

Dr. Augusto DaSilva of New York says that therapeutic interventions such as counseling or cognitive-behavioral therapy can provide valuable support for individuals grappling with body image issues. Moreover, consulting with a mental health expert can assist individuals in discerning whether a cosmetic procedure aligns with the patients long-term goals and aspirations.

Conclusion

The intersection of body positivity and cosmetic surgery is a complex terrain shaped by personal beliefs, societal norms, and individual experiences. While body positivity advocates for self-acceptance and inclusivity, cosmetic surgery offers a pathway to self-improvement and empowerment. Navigating this intersection requires nuanced conversations, informed decision-making, and a commitment to promoting diversity and acceptance.

Ultimately, whether an individual chooses to embrace their natural features or undergo cosmetic enhancement, the most important factor is cultivating a positive relationship with their body. By fostering a culture of self-love, acceptance, and empowerment, we can create a world where every individual feels valued and celebrated, regardless of their appearance or surgical choices.

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As Taurus embraces the day on April 13, 2024, the stars arrange themselves in a pattern that speaks to both comfort and upheaval, signaling a period of significant personal growth. The steady earth under your feet might feel a bit more pliable today, urging you to adapt and consider the beauty in change. This day challenges you to step outside your comfort zone, promising that growth lies in unfamiliar territories. While change may not always be comfortable for a Taurus, the cosmic energies at play encourage you to trust in the process and find stability within yourself, rather than in external circumstances. The realms of love and relationships are under a particularly reflective aspect, highlighting the importance of communication and mutual understanding. For those in partnerships, today is an excellent opportunity to build on the foundation of your relationship, addressing any issues with a calm and open heart. The planets suggest a time for healing and deepening the emotional connection with your partner through honesty and vulnerability. Single Tauruses might find themselves introspecting about what they truly seek in a relationship, potentially leading to a revelation about past patterns that could be hindering their path to love. Embrace these insights, as they pave the way to a more fulfilling love life. In your professional life, the influence of Mercury encourages a focus on detail and organization. Its a day where your methodical approach will shine, allowing you to tackle complex tasks with ease. However, the stars also warn against becoming too entrenched in routine; innovation and flexibility could open doors to unexpected opportunities. Consider this a nudge to balance your natural preference for stability with a sprinkle of Taurus tenacity and willingness to explore new avenues in your career. Health and well-being take center stage, with the cosmic advice leaning towards nurturing both body and soul. Your sign often revels in the sensual pleasures of life, which can be a source of great comfort and joy. Today, however, consider integrating activities that also feed your spirit and mind. Whether it's a peaceful walk in nature, experimenting with a new healthy recipe, or dedicating time to a hobby that soothes your soul, the focus is on holistic well-being. April 13, 2024, marks a day of introspection and gentle growth for Taurus. The stars encourage embracing change, fostering deeper connections, innovating in your career, and caring for your holistic health. As you navigate the day's energies, remember that stability isn't just about resisting change but also about finding your inner equilibrium amidst life's ebbs and flows.

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The BMC, along with SNDT university, will develop an application for sale and delivery of products manufactured by women self-help groups across Mumbai. The civic body intends to create an online marketplace, besides market and brand products manufactured by women self-help groups in the city by developing an application for the same. The BMC will tie up with dabbawalas in Mumbai for delivery of these products. Additional Municipal Commissioner (Western Suburbs) Sudhakar Shinde directed the administration to develop a proper system for an online marketplace for products of the SHGs through the application. The Additional Commissioner also directed those products, which are sold on the online marketplace, should meet a certain quality standard. A delegation of the Mumbai Dabbawala Association met Shinde on Friday. The Dabbewala association also agreed to deliver products created by the women self-help groups all over Mumbai. According to a BMC release, there are about 10,000 women self-help groups in Mumbai, and more than a lakh women are engaged in producing various types of products including food and other items. The BMC has signed an MOU with SNDT university for developing the app. The app will also include photos and videos of the women, who are making products.

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