Are you looking to build more confidence? Perhaps you want to gain clarity in your life or direction in your business? Or maybe you want to find love or improve your current relationship? People seek life coaching for a variety of reasons. As a life coach, Ive seen enough to know that youre never alone in whatever youre searching for.

No matter what the initial intention is for seeking a coach, the first course of action is always the same: to improve your relationship with yourself. I assume this isnt the first time youve heard, if you want to have a relationship with someone else, have a relationship with yourself first. I think Carrie Bradshaw said it best, dont forget to fall in love with yourself first.

It doesnt matter whether youre single or married, have a business or work for a companyno matter where you are in life, your relationship with yourself is undoubtedly the most important.

If you think yours could use an upgrade, below are five simple steps to elevate the relationship you have with yourself so that, eventually, all of the other wonderful things youre looking for in life will follow. When exploring the below, go device-free for the best results!

Yes, I said quality time with yourself. But dont just take time alone, make it valuable. Lets put this into context. If you were to call up a long-lost friend, what kind of interaction would you want to have with her? My guess is that youd want to ask her how shes doing, find out what shes been up to, and make your interaction about reconnecting. This is what I mean by quality time with yourselfreconnect and ask questions. Spend the evening journaling, meditating, and reflecting on where you are in your life and where you want to be. Maybe you make yourself a delicious healthy meal and pour yourself a glass of red wine or draw yourself a bath. Whatever you do, make it about reconnecting to YOU.

I know from working with many working moms, the immediate question becomes, How?! Trust me, its possible; NOTHING is impossible. If you prioritize yourself and your needs, you can and will make this happen. Plus, its an amazing reset button. The next level is to go away for a weekend on your own, but one day is still a great start. For the daytime, choose some of your favorite activities and indulge. By indulge, I mean, really treat yourself. Take yourself out to dinner or lunch. Have a glass of champagne or go to a sophisticated restaurant and enjoy a nice, full meal. Give yourself the birthday treatmenteven if its not your birthday! My tip for nighttime self-dates? Put on a sexy dress or bold lipstick (whatever gets you feeling your sexiest), as if youre dressing up for a date. Some of my best nights have been when I take myself out for a date, get dressed all sexy, and hit the town. It doesnt have to be anything wild, but its fun and empowering to get dolled up for no one but you!

Get off your couch and get moving! Workout when you can, even if its a short 10-minute sequence (Melissa Wood Health has some of my favorite exercises). Go for walks in nature or walk to pick up your food instead of ordering delivery. Go on your rooftop if you live in the city, and if youre blessed enough to live with a lot of SPACE, go take up space! Try a dance or Zumba class, go to yoga or pilates, or even dance in your living room. Whatever it is that gets you moving, try it! And because youre disconnecting from your cell, promise yourself to be fully present in your body. Ask your body what she needstap into this connection and enjoy it! Make movement part of your intimate connection with yourself. From there, prioritize movement in all areas of your life.

Have there been certain things that youve been avoiding addressing? If youre looking for a self-relationship update, now is the time to get real. Ask yourself why youve been avoiding said thing and dive in. Dive into the discomfort and challenge yourself by confronting anything thats been bothering you. Whether it be starting that business youve always wanted, or having that difficult conversation with your loved one, do it. NOW is the time. You then get the opportunity to check-in with yourself and look at all that happened within YOU, not the other party. How did you feel? How did you grow? In what other ways can you expandright nowknowing youre capable of walking courageously through the tough stuff?

Upgrading your relationship with yourself is not a one-night stand. This is an ongoing commitment, as you would be committed to any other important person in your life. If this feels like a challenge, look at your commitment patterns in other areas of your life. Have you been de-valuing commitments to others? Your level of engagement in other areas of your life may be a direct reflection of the value youre putting on your relationship with yourself. If youre not engaged with yourself, how will you create these upgrades when youre building or growing in relationships and life? Consistency is critical.

Once you upgrade your relationship to yourself, your entire life will naturally start to change. Youll be lighter, happier, more joyful, and more at ease. No matter where youre going, starting with YOU is always the best place to begin. The uplevel is real. Are you ready for it?

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Never Settle: How to Upgrade the Relationship You Have With Yourself - Thrive Global